Comparison is a dangerous game to play. These days with social media giving you a glimpse into everyone’s lives and phones with cameras so good some people don’t even own cameras anymore you might be lead to believe that everyone is living a perfect life. One of your friends posts a picture looking effortlessly gorgeous with her family coordinated in complimenting colors at an amazing location you’ve always wanted to go. They say a picture is worth a thousand words, but it’s just a snapshot. You aren’t getting the full story with that photo.
This month I’d like to challenge you to stop negatively comparing yourself to others. Especially with the version of reality you see online. You don’t know how long it took your friend to save up for that vacation or what the trip was like. Celebrate it with her! Instead of looking at that photo and wishing you were in a place like that, be genuinely happy for her and evaluate what takes priority over traveling in your life. You have an opportunity to analyze it and either cut it out of your life to make room for saving to travel or realize that traveling isn’t as important to you right now and you can put more energy into what is.
The danger of comparison is that often times you only see the fruit of someone’s labor without realizing work they put into cultivating it. This is toxic fertilizer for the negative self-talk playing out in your head.
By comparing yourself, you often tend to focus on what you lack. You see what characteristics and material items others have that you don’t. You already know what you have and what you don’t. Instead of comparing yourself and highlighting what you don’t have, try to find a productive way to bring more of what you want into your life. If you focus on what you lack, it will amplify. By focusing on what you’d like to increase, you’ll find yourself bringing more of it into your life. It’s the same thing presented in two different ways. One is disempowering and highlights what’s lacking the other is empowering and creates value.
As you step into this month’s challenge, I’d like you to ask yourself these questions and take note of the answers-
- Who do you compare yourself to?
- What motivates you to compare yourself?
- Do you negatively or positively compare yourself to others most of the time?
- How does it make you feel?
- What do you gain from it?
During the month, I’d like you to-
- Be conscious when you compare yourself to others
- Identify why you’re comparing yourself
- Create a comparison that’s empowering and confirm if it adds value to your life
- If it doesn’t add value, dismiss the idea
- If it does, find a way to create room for it in your life
Comparison is a part of life. It isn’t innately bad but when comparison revolves around lack and leads to negative self-talk it doesn’t do anything to feed your self-value. You don’t have to do, be, or have everything you see in others. You just have to be the best version of yourself! Let’s celebrate the greatness within others and honor and cherish the greatness within you!
Seek to compliment others more and compare yourself less. -Niki
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