Dose Of Empowerment|Compliment More, Compare Less

Comparison is a dangerous game to play. These days with social media giving you a glimpse into everyone’s lives and phones with cameras so good some people don’t even own cameras anymore you might be lead to believe that everyone is living a perfect life. One of your friends posts a picture looking effortlessly gorgeous with her family coordinated in complimenting colors at an amazing location you’ve always wanted to go. They say a picture is worth a thousand words, but it’s just a snapshot. You aren’t getting the full story with that photo. 

This month I’d like to challenge you to stop negatively comparing yourself to others. Especially with the version of reality you see online. You don’t know how long it took your friend to save up for that vacation or what the trip was like. Celebrate it with her! Instead of looking at that photo and wishing you were in a place like that, be genuinely happy for her and evaluate what takes priority over traveling in your life. You have an opportunity to analyze it and either cut it out of your life to make room for saving to travel or realize that traveling isn’t as important to you right now and you can put more energy into what is.

The danger of comparison is that often times you only see the fruit of someone’s labor without realizing work they put into cultivating it. This is toxic fertilizer for the negative self-talk playing out in your head.

By comparing yourself, you often tend to focus on what you lack. You see what characteristics and material items others have that you don’t.  You already know what you have and what you don’t. Instead of comparing yourself and highlighting what you don’t have, try to find a productive way to bring more of what you want into your life. If you focus on what you lack, it will amplify. By focusing on what you’d like to increase, you’ll find yourself bringing more of it into your life. It’s the same thing presented in two different ways. One is disempowering and highlights what’s lacking the other is empowering and creates value.

As you step into this month’s challenge, I’d like you to ask yourself these questions and take note of the answers-

  • Who do you compare yourself to?
  • What motivates you to compare yourself?
  • Do you negatively or positively compare yourself to others most of the time?
  • How does it make you feel?
  • What do you gain from it?

During the month, I’d like you to-

  • Be conscious when you compare yourself to others
  • Identify why you’re comparing yourself
  • Create a comparison that’s empowering and confirm if it adds value to your life
    • If it doesn’t add value, dismiss the idea
    • If it does, find a way to create room for it in your life

Comparison is a part of life. It isn’t innately bad but when comparison revolves around lack and leads to negative self-talk it doesn’t do anything to feed your self-value. You don’t have to do, be, or have everything you see in others. You just have to be the best version of yourself! Let’s celebrate the greatness within others and honor and cherish the greatness within you!

Seek to compliment others more and compare yourself less. -Niki

This month’s Reiki Boost goes hand in hand with the Dose of Empowerment! To receive a daily dose of Reiki with the intention of affirming you are more than enough, click on the image below.

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12 Replies to “Dose Of Empowerment|Compliment More, Compare Less”

  1. thanks for reminding me how important it is not to compared myself with anyone. Because I do not know the steps that others have given to achieve their success.

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    1. I’m so glad you took what you needed from this post. ❤

      It's easy to see what they have and not realize what they had to sacrifice or the work they put in to get it!

      A message I received this week during a meditation was- "Success is a reflection of your dedication to your dream." I'm taking that and running with it!

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  2. A very beautiful post !! This was a problem i was facing a few years back… and i realized the negativity and deleted all my social media profiles… I thought i was amateur back then… But it is now that i realize.. Instead of quitting from the social platforms i should have tried and looked into the hard-work those people had put in to achieve their goals …. It would have motivated me to achieve mine ! 🙂

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    1. It’s hard to know the hard work and sacrifice that goes on behind the scenes. There are some excellent interviews available on YouTube. A few of my favorite channels are Lewis Howes, Inside Quest, and Addicted 2 Success. They all interview some of the biggest names out there. The amount of knowledge, motivation, and inspiration is priceless! You really get to see what goes on behind the scenes and how hard they have to grind to get to where they are and stay there. Not everyone really wants to do what it takes to get to a level of success that the rewards are seductive which is part of the reason why so few play at that level. If we focus on our purpose, mission, and message more I think we’ll reach success in ways we didn’t anticipate and the reward will be great! ❤

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      1. That’s so true !!!! It’s great to know you and I am more than happy to follow your blog !! Have a great day !! 🙂

        PS: I have bookmarked all of those channels… trust me I’m gonna watch all of those videos!! 🙂 Thank You 🙂

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      2. So nice to connect with you Reema ❤ Thank you, I appreciate you following. You'll get more empowering posts each month and little bits and pieces every now and then 🙂

        I’m sure you’ll love them! Let me know what you think when you check them out ❤

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    1. Yes! I just heard that quote recently and it’s so true! Gratefulness is such an amazing antidote! One thing that comes to mind is a message I received recently that was about it not making sense for me to have more of something if I’m not grateful for what I already have, I’d just have more to not be grateful for. Learning to be in the moment, embrace it, enjoy it and be thankful for all that is and what we have (materialistic and otherwise) is such a powerful way to cultivate deep rooted joy. I’m so glad you found this post and encourage you to continue to be gentle with yourself, compliment yourself twice as much as you compare, and lean into gratitude regularly ❤


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