Whether you’re a giver (someone who gives others most of their time and energy) or you just have too much on your plate, neglecting yourself for too long can often lead to you feeling burnt out. You might feel tired, sluggish, irritable, overwhelmed, and just need a break from life. If that goes on for too long it can often lead to feeling discouraged, defeated, and even depression. Many have been taught that putting yourself first is selfish. While I bought into that train of thought, over time I began to realize that putting myself first was the least selfish thing I could do. By putting myself first and being in the best health (mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically) I’m able to better tend to others and get more satisfaction out of the things I do.
We live in a society that values how much we can accomplish and praises those who can tackle many things at one time. The thing is, we aren’t robots and we need to make self-care a priority. You don’t expect a remote with dying batteries to be as quick, responsive, or perform as well as one with fresh batteries in it. The same rings true with self-care. If we try to run on rechargeable batteries without recharging them, it’s only a matter of time before they give out. What we’re really doing is sacrificing our well-being and the quality in which we do things.
Sure you’ll still get things done but the energy and attitude in which you do them isn’t the same as it would be if you were running on fully charged well maintained batteries!
Now that you can agree why self-care is essential, I’ll give you a few tips to help you incorporate it into your life.
1. Evaluate Your Needs-
Neglecting the things that you need can lead to a decline in physical health as well as make you feel insignificant. How has overlooking your needs made you feel? It’s important to evaluate the things that you need to feel your best. What are things that you need in order to function at 100%? What are things you need on a regular basis? It might be something you do, something you don’t do, or something you need to start doing. Take some time to think about this and write down five things that you need to feel your best.
2. Give In To Your Desires-
There aren’t any prizes for depriving yourself of the things that you want. Needs are things that you have to have and wants are things that are nice to have. They don’t have to be physical or material objects. It’s a matter of giving into your heart’s desires. It’s the joy that you get out of doing something just because you want to. It might be going for a nice sunset walk instead of doing dishes or reading a book before work instead of checking emails. You can always come back to what has to get done, but indulging in what you want to do is a treat you haven’t given yourself enough if you’re feeling burnt out.
3. Make Yourself #1 On Your List of Priorities-
Do one thing you want and one thing you need for yourself every day. Set a reoccurring reminder on your phone so you won’t forget to make this part of your daily routine. It’s not about the amount of time it takes but the consistency in which you do it. I’m sure you’ll find that by giving yourself even 15 minutes a day of fulfilling a need and indulging in a want that you’ll feel a lot better. It’s a great way to de-stress and connect with yourself.
There’s more to life than feeling like you’re barely treading water. While life is full of responsibility and commitment, it’s also meant to be enjoyed. Taking the time to evaluate and fulfill your wants and needs can go a long way to improving the quality of your life. I can’t wait to hear what you think of these tips and how putting them into practice impacts your life.
To support you on your journey of self-care, I’ve created a 30-day practice to help you put these tips into action! You can find more details here.
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Wishing you all that you need to support you in your self-care practice,