Social Media Where Self-Comparison Thrives

I’m just going to say it. When I struggled with regularly making myself feel inadequate by comparing myself to others, social media was the worst place for me to be! There was nothing that would make me feel worse about myself than scrolling through posts of people with perfect lives. Of course, I know their lives aren’t perfect but I didn’t process it that way when I felt bad about myself and saw the perfect version of their lives I was privy to.

I really had to take a step back and change how I navigated on social media. I ended up unfollowing everyone that made me feel inadequate when their post hit my feed. It’s not that they did anything, it’s that I wasn’t in a place where I could handle what they were sharing. So until I could, I had to remove it from my feed and build myself up. I searched for pages that shared content that was empowering. Stories of everyday people doing amazing things. Stories of underdogs overcoming the odds. Pages that dedicated themselves to sharing good news only. Whatever I felt I needed, I found a page that shared it and followed it.

I then dedicated myself to my journey and healing within myself and figuring out how I could align myself with what I was meant to do. The farther into my journey I got, the less I was distracted or concerned with others and the less I compared myself. Once I was at a point that I could genuinely be happy for others and see their posts without taking it as a slight against me, I started following them again. That might not be the “right” way to do things but I wasn’t in a place that I was strong enough or could think of a better way to do it.

If you find yourself feeling inadequate as you navigate social media, I want to remind you that life isn’t that perfect. Those curated posts look awesome. The fashion is on point. The makeup is flawless. The weather is gorgeous. At the end of the day, a lot of time and thought goes into capturing that one perfectly groomed moment. It’s not what everyday life looks like it’s what life on social media looks like there’s a difference. So find ways to remind yourself that it’s a curated moment and fill your feed with more things that empower you not fuel you to feel inadequate.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this post. Can you relate to it? Is it something you needed to be reminded of today? Let me know in the comments. Sending you lots of love!
-Niki Meadows
Former social media hater turned Women’s Worthiness Coach

26 Replies to “Social Media Where Self-Comparison Thrives”

  1. You know something, I felt the same when I used to have Facebook, I decided to focus on myself and since 2013 I have been navigating this maze without any presence in Facebook. Some people tell me that Facebook is becoming the wild west.

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    1. I’m so glad you made such a great choice for yourself! I’m honestly really on Facebook for the value I get out of the groups I’m in. I hop on a couple of times for that and that’s about it. Thanks for taking the time to share ❤

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      1. I’ve found that one of the best ways to help is by practicing gratitude. Whenever I found myself feeling bad it had to do with not being enough or having enough. Finding a way to be grateful for things as they are and reminding myself of that really helps. ❤

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  2. Hi Niki!

    Love this post. The feeling that you and I once felt about social media is so much more prevalent than we think. I think us women feel it more, but men certainly do as well. I think most of it is our mindset and perception of social media. I wrote about this too on my blog, I’d love for you to check it out and give me feedback!

    XO, Ashley

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    1. Hi Ashley,
      Yeah it’s strange. It’s something that’s really become a part of everyday life in the past decade. That false sense of reality can be hard to deal with. I’m so glad this post resonated with you. Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment ❤


  3. I used to love social media and it was such a creative outlet for me. Now I’m finding it draining and something that can steal joy from awesome moments in life (especially instagram). Kinda sad really and I had to put a stop to it when I realised I cared about it way too much. I have started to use it less, and when I do use it, I now post whatever I like regardless of “aesthetic”.

    Thanks for the post – can definitely relate and have posted similar thoughts on my own blog as well.

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    1. Ohhh yes, Instagram is the ultimate platform of perfection. Don’t get me wrong I love it! But I operate on it very consciously aware that 99% is staged. So while there has to be a certain level of visual element there for me to get my message out, I rely more heavily on my captions to deliver the message and my photos to get people’s attention enough to read.

      I’m glad that you’ve realized it and are finding your own way to navigate on it. Sending lots of love your way, happy Monday! ❤


  4. This is such an amazing and insightful post! I struggle a lot with self-esteem, and comparing myself to others on social media is a huge part of that. The ending paragraph really resonated with me, as I often forget that all social media is a reflection of the best bits of an individuals life, making mine seem messy in comparison. Its lovely knowing that there are others who struggle with the same things x

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    1. I’m sorry to hear about your struggle. That’s exactly why I share posts like this. It’s so important to know we aren’t alone. Thank you for taking the time to stop by. Sending lots of love your way! ❤


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