I’m just going to say it. When I struggled with regularly making myself feel inadequate by comparing myself to others, social media was the worst place for me to be! There was nothing that would make me feel worse about myself than scrolling through posts of people with perfect lives. Of course, I know their lives aren’t perfect but I didn’t process it that way when I felt bad about myself and saw the perfect version of their lives I was privy to.
I really had to take a step back and change how I navigated on social media. I ended up unfollowing everyone that made me feel inadequate when their post hit my feed. It’s not that they did anything, it’s that I wasn’t in a place where I could handle what they were sharing. So until I could, I had to remove it from my feed and build myself up. I searched for pages that shared content that was empowering. Stories of everyday people doing amazing things. Stories of underdogs overcoming the odds. Pages that dedicated themselves to sharing good news only. Whatever I felt I needed, I found a page that shared it and followed it.
I then dedicated myself to my journey and healing within myself and figuring out how I could align myself with what I was meant to do. The farther into my journey I got, the less I was distracted or concerned with others and the less I compared myself. Once I was at a point that I could genuinely be happy for others and see their posts without taking it as a slight against me, I started following them again. That might not be the “right” way to do things but I wasn’t in a place that I was strong enough or could think of a better way to do it.
If you find yourself feeling inadequate as you navigate social media, I want to remind you that life isn’t that perfect. Those curated posts look awesome. The fashion is on point. The makeup is flawless. The weather is gorgeous. At the end of the day, a lot of time and thought goes into capturing that one perfectly groomed moment. It’s not what everyday life looks like it’s what life on social media looks like there’s a difference. So find ways to remind yourself that it’s a curated moment and fill your feed with more things that empower you not fuel you to feel inadequate.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this post. Can you relate to it? Is it something you needed to be reminded of today? Let me know in the comments. Sending you lots of love!
Former social media hater turned Women’s Worthiness Coach