What Complaining Empowers

You can never complain your way to a fulfilling life.

-Edmond Mbiaka

How true that is. I used to be a chronic complainer. I don’t know why it took me so long to realize complaining never made me feel better. It just empowered me to fixate on everything I was complaining about and justify it. It ultimately left me feeling powerless. It took me a while, but I finally learned the lesson.

18 Replies to “What Complaining Empowers”

  1. I know what you mean here. The thing is with complaining is that is doesn’t actually help to solve the situation and if you can’t do anything about it makes you fester about all these things.
    It’s all whatever….


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  2. So true. It does perpetuate a feeling of powerlessness. It doesn’t even feel good if you look at is as venting. It’s something you don’t like. You “we” magnify it thru complaining about it. It’s like a mantra of “this doesn’t work” Venting for me is usually a verbalizing a new situation that is problematic. It’s like step one in resolving it or teaching myself that this negative.

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    1. Exactly, what we focus on magnifies… It’s good to get things out but there’s a difference between processing it and living it over and over. That’s been the difference for me. Complain about the situation once to express my feelings but then do something to change it or how I feel about it.

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    1. I agree. It takes the joy out of the moment. It’s better to get it out, move to solution-based thinking, and either change the situation or change how we feel about it. But festering isn’t going to make things better… Happy Monday!

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  3. Hi Niki. Generally agree. However, playing devil’s advocate, it can help us articulate & process what’s bugging us, whether in our hearts or in our minds. The important thing is to move through/past complaining and look forward. Sometimes all we find is a loose yarn end. But by following it, we can find ourselves in unexpected (good) places… moving toward empowerment or solutions.
    Peace, y’know.

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    1. Agreed! Letting it out and moving forward is a great skill to practice. The type of complaint I’m referring to is chronic complaining. My motto is “let it out, but don’t live there”. 😉


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