Complaining Doesn’t Get You Where You Want

What would your life look like if you were very intentional about eliminating the mental energy you expend complaining and use it towards finding ways to create change? The thing is, we complain about the things we aren’t willing to accept as they are. So we can either change them or change the way we think about them. Sometimes there really are things that are beyond our control, things we’re unable to change. If that’s the case, what needs to change is the way we look at it. We have to accept it for what it is, make our peace with it, and change our perception around it. Instead of holding onto all of the reasons we can complain about the situation, find the one reason to be grateful for it.

The other option is to change the situation. It might mean changing our approach and often times changing our mindset. Finding new ways to think about the situation and come up with solutions. A lot of times, solutions come in the form of action. I know you already have an extensive list of the things you can’t do. I’m interested in the things you can do. So circle back around and come up with the most absurd changes you can think of. Then come up with the most simple ones. Your approach may wind up being a combination of the two. Either way, put your energy into productive solution-focused thinking. I’m willing to bet complaining hasn’t gotten you where you want to go. So give this a try and see how it works out for you. Be patient with yourself because it will take time but the more you practice, the better you’ll get.

If this post was for you, let me know in the comments. I always like to get a gauge and make sure I’m sharing messages that are meant to be heard. Sending lots of love your way!
-Niki Meadows
Former chronic complainer turned Women’s Worthiness Coach

4 Replies to “Complaining Doesn’t Get You Where You Want”

  1. I totally agree with you and I am of the same idea. Unfortunately at work I have many complainers and I wish to know the magic cure to let them change this attitude that to be honest with you drive me only crazy.

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    1. So many struggle with this! It can be really hard. I’d encourage you to find ways to avoid it. Is it certain people in particular? Can you avoid engaging in conversation or find a way to excuse yourself from the conversation? The thing is, the only ones we can change is ourselves. If they aren’t ready to give up complaining, they likely won’t. So I’d try to find ways to remove myself from it as much as possible. I had an office job so I’d softly play a comedy station on Pandora to lighten up the mood in my cubicle. I’d also leave my headset on all day that way people wouldn’t know if I was on the phone or not and that was my shield to ward off unwanted conversation. 😮

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