It takes time to change your mindset. If you have a long habit of cultivating negative thoughts or seeing what you can complain about, it’s not like flipping a switch. There are numerous opportunities to practice cultivating a healthy mindset. It really comes down to the everyday things. It takes a lot of work and dedication in the beginning. The more you practice, the more naturally it will come. You have to remember that you’re reversing the process. So if you’ve thought a certain way or looked at things from a particular perspective for years, you have to remind yourself every day of the new mindset you’re cultivating.
You might want to set an intention for the day. Once you’ve set your intention, come up with a quick way to remind yourself of it as the day goes on. That way when you’re faced with an opportunity to cultivate a healthy mindset, you’re reminded that this is how it’s done. I’m a big fan of mantras and affirmations. I love to make my own but in the beginning, my mindset was so negative I didn’t know where to start. You can google affirmations by just searching “affirmation for…” and then complete it with a word summarizing your intention. When I found myself struggling during the day or falling into my old habits, I’d repeat the mantra of the day to myself.
I’m not going to lie, this was very hard work and I didn’t have instant results. More times than not I found myself remembering after I’d finished a negative thought that it wasn’t cultivating what I wanted. That taught me to be patient and compassionate with myself because there were plenty of opportunities throughout the day to try again. After I caught myself after the fact enough times, I was eventually able to catch myself mid-thought. That was progress! Over time, I was able to reroute my thoughts from the negative track they were on to something more healthy and positive. I know it’s not easy but it’s worth it. It’s never too late and you have to start somewhere. So why not start today, right now? Set your intention for the rest of today, come up with an affirmation or quote you can take your mind to, and focus on cultivating the healthy mindset you desire.
As always, sending lots of love your way!
Former chronic negative thinker turned women’s life coach
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