The tough part of success

So often, we let the fear of failure hold us back. We’ll do almost anything to avoid it. It feels so miserable and can be humiliating. But how much do we miss out on by letting fear of failure win? By simply not trying or not striving. Is it better to not try and therefore not fail or to succeed in spite of failure? I surround myself with people who fail often, fail hard, and talk about it. Guess what? I admire them for it. I admire their courage to pursue things that challenge them. I admire them for talking about their failure. I admire where they are despite the failure they experience along the way.

I never lose, I either win or learn.

There’s so much truth in the wise words of the late Nelson Mandela. That’s what the people I surround myself do, they share the opportunities they’ve had to learn. It encourages me to step outside of my comfort zone. It reminds me that failure isn’t bad, it’s a choice. It’s choosing not to continue down a path. It’s choosing to take a different direction. It’s choosing to see it as a chance to learn. Seeing failure in this way makes it less intimidating. It makes me less afraid to do things that might not turn out the way I’d like the first time around. It makes me realize that it’s a normal part of the process.

You aren’t a failure. You aren’t a loser. You’re a student of life, learning lessons and making progress along the way. Step away from that “right/wrong”, “win/lose”, “all or nothing” mentality. It doesn’t do us any good because not everything is so straightforward. Be open to seeing what you can learn from those “losses” or “failures”. You might be one failure away from success and not even know it. So go find more opportunities that could potentially lead to failure…

Sending lots of love your way!
Niki Meadows
Formerly petrified of failure turned failure opportunity seeker and worthiness coach

15 Replies to “The tough part of success”

  1. So true Nikki, and I’m constantly fighting trying versus not trying. Terribly frustrating and the result of low mood and overthinking. As always you make a great deal of sense and somehow I should be on your blog way more often methinks!!

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      1. Too long Niki, mind you I did do NaNo last year and it spilled through February so I’ve been out of social media largely. Been meaning to pop over for ages… 😊

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      2. I can shout out a huge positive on that one. Full first draft of Black Marsh and my beta readers have already given it a thumbs up. I’m also pretty sure the slump is fallout from writing 110k words in two and a half months too. Mindfulness says consider writing hangover as the reason for a few weeks in limbo. Then go back and list the positive outcomes.

        See I do pay attention to your wise words now and then 😂

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      3. About the only way I can describe it! That said I’ve taken on the A to Z challenge in the hope it stimulates some creativity. Oh my…is that another positive??? 😊

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