I was recently watching Oprah interview actor Michael B Jordan and was so pleasantly surprised. As I listened in while I cooked a family meal, I was just moved to my core. You see, I’ve always been told that my standards are too high. That I’m too demanding… And after hearing it so much, I started to believe it. Maybe I was. I’ve been told that I have an idea in my mind of a man who doesn’t exist. But then I also realized that my standards are high, but not unrealistic.
I don’t have this massive list of qualifications and expectations. What I do have is a clear idea of characteristics, traits, and qualities that I value and admire. It’s not that someone has to meet all of those things, but there are things on that list that are genuinely important to me. I was starting to feel down and discouraged. I thought maybe the words other men in my life had spoken were true. But then I realized that they were coming from men who didn’t have many of the characteristics on that list to begin with…
It was so funny to me that as I sat and listened to the things that Michael B Jordan talked about it gave me a glimmer of hope. Granted I don’t know him personally, but I saw some of the qualities and characteristics I value reflected in his words. It made me realize that my standards aren’t too high. My expectations aren’t unrealistic. I just know what I want, desire, and deserve and I’m not willing to settle.
I love observing people because I find confirmation that what I want exists. It might be far-fetched to think that there’s someone out there who possesses the qualities I’m looking for. But then I ask myself, might there be someone out there, looking for someone just like me? Might I have the characteristics, traits, and values that they’re looking for? Might I be like a dream come true? I don’t think this to flatter myself and I could be fooling myself, but I can’t help but think the answer is yes, there is! With so many people in the world, is it really that far-fetched? The tricky part, is those two people finding each other. But I don’t dwell on things like that. I leave room for magic in my life because as my experience has proven time and time again, things often turn out better than you plan them.
So while I don’t know him, Michael B Jordan spoke to me on a soul-level in that interview. He gave me hope that someone who has the same values a similar mindset and outlook on life does in fact exist. I decided not to let the opinions of others validate my idea of what’s possible, probable, or likely. It’s totally possible that I’ll meet someone who I’m in alignment with, has similar values, and who I can partner with to share a life with. Granted, it won’t be anytime in the near future because I’m taking 2019 to do some deep inner work and reflection. But when the time is right, things will be set in motion, I know it.