So Jay and his wife open up about their relationship when they were in the dating phase. Jay mentions traditional dating setting us up for failure because it's almost like an interview and I couldn't agree more. His wife talked about most of their dates being them hanging out with her family and how she wouldn't get all dressed up for him.
I don't expect my partner to change and honestly I don't think it's fair for me to. I do hope that they'll grow but fundamentally change who they are? No. I wouldn't want someone to want or expect me to change in order to be with them. If that's the case, I'd just rather not be with them. If you can't love me for who I am, as I am, then it's just not a fit.
Of course there are no absolutes, but do you agree or disagree for the most part? I'll be discussing this tomorrow. Curious to hear your thoughts...
Growing up I NEVER had a desire to get married. In fact, I can vividly recall as a little girl around 8 years old in my bedroom in Germany imagining my life as an adult. I saw myself as a single mom of three, living in a luxury apartment, on my own. I didn't have a husband or partner. I just saw myself working and raising my kids. I felt peace, love, and harmony.
I've always been told that my standards are too high. That I'm too demanding... I started to believe it. Maybe I was. I've been told that I have an idea in my mind of a man who doesn't exist. But then I also realized that my standards are high, but not unrealistic.
I have to admit I'm pretty proud of myself. See, when you're going through a break up, a small part of you wishes you could get back together. Even though I know this is for the best... It's like there's a disconnect between my brain and my heart. My brain logically understands this is the best thing for everyone involved. My heart feels otherwise.
For years there's nothing I wanted more than a true, meaningful, and deep connection with someone. A love that would stand the test of time. A partner who was as equally invested in the relationship as I was. Someone who shared my values and had a similar vision for their life. I didn't think I was …
There's a song I used to listen to growing up with a verse that talked about looking for love in all the wrong places. I've been there, seeking love and validation from others. Buying into that "two halves make a whole" view of love. I actually used to think that if someone fell in love …
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